Monday, August 2, 2021

For His Glory

 


Why write?

Why write when no one reads?

Why tell my story when it’s nothing special?

I’ve asked myself many times.

The answer: for His glory!

To give God glory is to give an accurate representation of who he is! To give the correct opinion or estimate. To reflect his beauty and magnificence. To convey a sense of brilliance or radiance.

As immeasurable as the vastness of the galaxy, is the minutia of the microscopic world.  Somewhere in between, a huge God stepped down into the business of one shy little girl and revealed himself.  Psalm 139 tells us that the sum of God’s thoughts toward me is vast! Toward ME!

In order to be a writer, we are told we must “build an online presence” because publishers won’t even read your work without it. Maybe not, but God will. Of that I am sure.

“The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands.”

Day after day they pour forth speech; night after night they reveal knowledge.” Ps 19:1-2

Maybe I’ll take the heavens as my example and say “right back atcha.” 

John wrote in his gospel “And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself would not contain the books that would be written.”  To all that has been written, I can add my words about all he has done in my life.  To accurately represent who he is.  For his glory!


Sunday, August 1, 2021

Turning Point

 



“Most Likely to Succeed” the high school yearbook read.  I thought back to my experiences as an honor student, always well-liked by teachers. I had always loved school – well, actually.…that wasn’t always true.

            I don’t remember much about the events of elementary school, but I could take you on a virtual tour of the large red brick North Central Elementary school and its      grounds.  Huge live oaks graced the large front and side lawns.  In the back of the school, a wide horseshoe-shaped sidewalk circled a grove of five or six more stately oaks.  Before school and at recess students walked around and around it in groups of two or three.  At my 20th high school reunion, a classmate told me she had envied the red Mary Jane shoes I wore in first grade because they made the neatest shuffling noise as we strolled around the horseshoe! 

            I held tightly to my mother’s hand as we walked up the long sidewalk, into the open space of the large foyer and down the wood-floored hall to the right past the lower elementary classrooms.   I wore a red, yellow and blue plaid dress with puffed sleeves and a gathered skirt and sash.  My mother always made neat little school dresses for me.   My long blonde hair bounced with curls formed by sleeping with rag curlers – strips of material around which sections of hair were wrapped and tied.  My bangs were freshly trimmed, a little crooked and more than a little too short.. 

            As we passed the first room on the right – Mrs. Moody’s first grade classroom, I saw new first graders waiting eagerly with their moms.

            “Surely, third grade will be better than first.” I thought, but my stomach turned.

            Mrs. Moody was barely taller than her first graders, much shorter than five feet.  She wore pointy dark-rimmed glasses and dressed in tailored suits and dresses with chunky healed shoes.  There were few disciplinary problems in elementary school.  Teachers kept order in their classrooms, especially Mrs. Moody.  Intimidation was her M.O.  No wonder I missed almost half of the school year with acute tonsillitis.  During a long hot September afternoon, terrified to ask to go to the bathroom, I sat for the half-hour before dismissal with a warm puddle at my feet. When the bell rang, I got up and left quickly, The poor janitor. To my enormous relief, Mrs. Moody hadn’t noticed.

            In the days before special education, a boy who had been held back a grade or two was in our class.  Roger Dale was kind and gentle, but slow in learning.  I learned a lot about compassion one day when Ms. Moody angrily threw a glass of water in Roger Dale’s face.  I remember him sobbing outside the classroom window as he took off his plaid cotton shirt and hung it on the shrub to dry. The memory still hurts.

            “Surely 3rd grade will be better!” I told myself.

            The next classroom we passed on the right was Mrs. Alexander’s second grade classroom.  I remembered that second grade hadn’t been much better than first – maybe worse.  Mrs. Alexander was tall, thin, and stern.  She wore her hair wavy and close to her head. I wonder now just how old she and Mrs. Moody were.  They certainly seemed old to me then, and they even look old to me in the picture I have, but I suppose they could have been only in their forties.  Every day after lunch, Mrs. Alexander paddled children who had “milk mustaches”.  I had started second grade there, moved, attended two other schools and then transferred back into Mrs. Alexander’s classroom. When she began to teach cursive writing in the spring, she was not happy that I had already started learning cursive at another school. She snarled out words I will never forget “You just think you’re smart, but you’re no smarter than an old billy goat!”  As we walked by, I drew a little closer to Mama and shivered a little as I saw the new 2nd grade class sitting there happy and optimistic about their school year. Poor kids.

 “Oh, surely 3rd grade will be better!” I agonized again.

            As we continued down the hall to the last classroom on the left, next to the cafeteria, I felt a little queasy.

“I’ve never known anyone who’s done third grade before!” I fretted.

As we turned into the room a tall black-haired woman stood in the middle of desks, students and parents.  She was young-fresh out of college!  And she smiled a big toothy smile–

“Hello, Linda, I’m Miss Kenneth, your new teacher.”  Then she did something so unexpected that I almost gasped – she hugged me.  Saying goodbye to Mama suddenly became a little easier. 

            That first morning Miss Kenneth had each of us read to her and do a writing assignment.

 “Oh you read so well Linda!”  “Great writing,  Linda.”   Throughout the morning, again and again, she smiled.  I fell in love with Miss Kenneth!

 By recess, as I skipped around the horseshoe, I decided that school just might be my thing after all. 

Childhood Prayers

 


On a crisp September morning in 1980 I prayed for a grateful spirit. Later, after I had taken the children to school, I decided to take a quick walk in our Park Forest neighborhood before ladies Bible study. The autumn day was clear and crisp, reminding me of the excitement I always felt as a child at the start of each school year. After a summer of togetherness with my three little ones, I felt free and happy to be walking alone.

            As I walked, I felt so much gratitude for the life God had given me. I had so much more I had than I ever expected. Three healthy children. A husband who was a wonderful Christian and father. A nice home. More than I ever expected or dreamed of.

            As I thanked God, I was suddenly struck with surprise and wonder as I realized that every one of these things I enjoyed in life was a direct answer to the prayers I had prayed as a little girl. What were my prayers? I had prayed for a husband who went to church, two healthy children and enough money to provide for them. They were simple prayers, based on a child’s limited understanding. God had not only heard those prayers but had cared enough to remember them even after I had forgotten about them.

            Why would a little child pray fervently about things most children take for granted? I was a very serious child, a student of the lives of others. The drinking, fighting and worry over getting the bills paid in my own family had caused me to watch other families, evaluate them and take mental notes of what I believed to be the secrets to happiness. Why did I pray for a family to go to church together?  In my observation, those families who went to church together seemed to have more peaceful homes. I knew my grandparents and the other relatives in Enon and Bogalusa went to church, and their lives seemed to be stable and calm. No relatives, friends of my parents, neighbors or parents of my friends were exempt from my “evaluations.” I knew that I had received salvation in Jesus, but I also looked for keys to a better life for the family I would have!

            I had a really close look into the life of one family. The Blackledge’s lived in our neighborhood and Rothell worked with Daddy at the telephone company.  He was a deacon in the small Baptist church I attended. Daddy spoke about Rothell with respect.  I sat with their family when I went to church alone. Mary babysat Mike and I one summer when Mama was working, so I saw their household operate from the inside. I envied their daughters. The Blackledge household was peaceful.  I know they had no idea that a little person was watching. I associated peaceful households with church-going, so I prayed for a husband who would go to church with me. God gave me more.

            Why did I pray for two children? Mama had said that most people could only afford two children. I definitely wanted a family where money matters were not the source of so much worry and strife. I prayed for two healthy children and enough money to take care of them. God gave me more.

            I realized that fall morning that God had answered the prayers of a little girl who felt so alone in her faith, but He had not limited Himself to her actual requests. He answered the real desires of her heart – those she didn’t have enough understanding to ask for.

           As I grew up, I remembered my childhood prayers and continued to pray but, when the time came to choose a husband, I was not searching in the right places or with the right criteria. With the pressure to fit in at college, I didn’t think so much about God.  When I met Ralph, he was a real “party guy”. I saw that he came from a good Catholic family and went to church and I wondered how that fit in with my prayers, but I am sure being in love was the real reason I married him. I did consider the difference in religion but remembered how MawMaw Foil had approved of her Catholic brother-in-law, saying “those Frenchmen make good husbands.” Ha! She had even said that it probably would have been better if her sister had converted to Catholicism so they could have gone to church as a family – again, the value of “going to church as a family”. I didn’t think to ask Ralph if he had committed his life to the Lord, if he was a Christian. 

           Even though I was not wisely seeking for a husband who would be an answer to my prayers, God saw in Ralph a man who would become the strong Christian man my heart had longed for. I didn’t know that church-going alone would not assure the peaceful home I wanted, but even though I did not know what to pray, God didn’t limit His blessings to the specifics I asked for.

          I had prayed for two healthy children. I read every book and tried to do everything perfectly in pregnancy and child care. That didn’t stop me from having a miscarriage when Jennifer was about two years old. When Darren was born prematurely, the doctors were worried about his breathing during his first night. I was terrified and began to realize that I could not control and protect my family by just doing everything “right”. I guess I hadn’t even learned yet that it is impossible to do everything perfectly. I also saw that I wasn’t in touch with God enough to really pray for my baby. Still, God was faithful and answered my prayer. Darren got over his breathing problems and thrived, but I suffered from depression and emptiness. I began to try to find God again. 

           I had the two healthy children I had prayed for. Still, God gave me more. When Darren was a baby, the Lord guided us into a real relationship with Him.  We began to want another baby and we knew God would provide. So, God gave us Joel! I prayed for a baby of average weight because I feared having another premature birth.  God showed me the scripture “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us.”  Eph. 3:20. Again, when Joel weighed in at a whopping 8 lbs. 1 oz., I knew that God had given me so much more than I could even think or know to ask for. What a blessing Joel has been – as we say in Louisiana – “lagniappe” – abundantly beyond what I prayed for.

           If God had taken my prayers at face value and answered them literally – giving me exactly what I asked for – I probably would have a husband who takes our family to church, two healthy children, enough money, yet possibly without the peace and joy of a life where Christ is known and honored. God sees the heart. He knew that my little heart was inclined toward Him, that I wanted Him, even though I thought I just wanted a family that went to church.

           God cared so deeply about the prayers of a little child that He remembered even when I had forgotten Him. He didn’t just eke out an answer that barely met my expectations, He gave me more. He gave me the desires of my heart, desires I didn’t have the maturity or wisdom to even recognize or express.

 “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

            


People Who Influenced Me - My Mother and Father, Ken and Faye Mizell

 





My mother was the most kind, loving and patient mother a young child could have. She treated me with trust and respect and taught me to be compassionate to others. We were very close when I was growing up, talking over everything. She was a person who loved babies, and babies loved her. She worked hard as a legal secretary. She adored her grandchildren, but issues and illness prevented her from having a close relationship with them.

 No dad ever worked harder than mine in to support his family. Telephone lineman, installer and cable repairman…he did hard work out in the weather. Daddy was tough but a real softie inside.  He taught me sincerity and integrity. He never hid who he was—what you saw was what you got. I always knew they loved me—they told me so and showed me in so many ways.

 The marriage and money issues, anger and alcohol abuse in their lives caused me heartache and complicated the quality of our lives and relationships, but I loved them dearly and was loved by them.

People Who Influenced Me - Rodney Foil


 One of the greatest influences in my life was my uncle, Rodney Foil. He and wife, Patti Sue Thomas Foil, took me in during college at a time of marital unrest in my own home. They offered me a peaceful home and a way to attend LSU. I doubt they knew how closely I watched and learned from all they said and did. I watched how they disciplined and loved their children with patience and wisdom, how they decided matters between themselves, and the respect they showed to every person. Long talks around their kitchen table covered topics of education, career, marriage, family, racism, religion. No one had ever talked to me like that before. It was adult talk! They accepted and understood me.

 I drank in the calm. Patti Sue was a role model to me in many ways – a perfect mom and homemaker, but intelligent and free thinking. Their encouragement and a place to live made it possible for me to finish college. An imprint of what a family might be was made.  Rodney’s patient, kind and calm manner became my model for an ideal husband. He continued to be a rock to me until his death on February 4, 2018. He continues to be a father figure, although he was only 13 years older than I.  

Each of my children has said that he seemed to fill a grandfather-void in their lives. He liked to say he takes a little credit for how each of them turned out. He deserved so much more than “a little” credit!

Ralph shot this candid photo in July 2017 as Rodney and I scrounged through the last of his files for things he wanted to pass on to me.. He gave me much of the family photos and “stuff” because he said I was the only one in the family interested. We loaded up my great-grandfather’s blacksmith shop and moved in to my back yard. I guess I suspected this might be my last visit with him, but I couldn’t bear to think it.